I'm not admitting any exciting encounters, but with things happening so fast in Utah, I'd better declare my allegiance. Since I'm trans, I proudly wave the pride flag of the LGBT movement. As you know, T is for transgender, and even though many pride people tend to forget the T, we remember them.
Besides, with my transition, and a lifetime erectile dysfunction, comes a lot of self-evaluation. I might someday, declare an attraction to men. Right now, however, I'm too screwed up to say that.
I know I might receive flack, but as for what the right wing calls Gay Marriage, I wish it hadn't come to this. There has always been a need to protect partners in every relationship. In the past, the law has been lacking. There were no rights for those who share each other's lives. When one partner died, or when someone needed to claim they're partner's insurance, there were no community property rights. Therefore, a law was needed, and under the law, only married people had those rights.
Times are changing, but it would've been less explosive if my brothers and sisters in the LGBT would've sought a new law instead of calling it marriage. You see it's the word that makes it an explosive issue. If we hadn't sought a same sex marriage law, the so called religious right wouldn't have anything to complain about.
Never the less, it was their stating the marriage laws that set the course. They chose the battlefield, they shouldn't be surprised when that became the law in question. Now, with the right government, things are changing. God bless those of you who cherish their marriage vows. Please remember, however, they are vows. Honor them. cherish each other into old age. Love each other, and prove that the right wing is wrong. Above all, love them, too.
I was chatting with a customer the other day. He mentioned the difficulty of something. I don’t remember what it was, but he said, "Can’t live with them."
I thought of the old cliché and said to myself, "Yeah, just like a woman."
Suddenly, I realized, what I’d said. I laughed, and told myself, "Yeah, and you are one." the male in me had made a sexist remark, and as a woman, it was directed at me.
The old saying, You can’t live with them, can’t live without them, has been used by men and woman for many years. It’s a sexist joke and it can be funny, when applied to the right couple. Because Mars and Venus are so opposite, living together has sometimes been difficult. That’s why the joke has survived for so long in human culture.
Still, the joke is, as Shakespeare wrote, a comedy of errors. That’s especially true, when you apply it to transgender folk. If I could choose, right now, I’d come down on the feminine side. Then men could say that about me, but I’m caught in the middle. He, (meaning my masculine self), still has influence in my life.
So, I could say, I can’t live with him, can’t live without him. He could say the same about me, but it’s not a joke. I really couldn’t live without the experiences of his life. He needs me to literally keep him alive, but there will be only one winner of this game—me. Does that sound crazy? Tell me about it. That’s why it’s a comedy of errors. It’s also sad, because I can’t stand being him.
